{"id":382,"date":"2006-07-25T19:11:55","date_gmt":"2006-07-26T00:11:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/granades.com\/2006\/07\/25\/the-emphatic-no\/"},"modified":"2006-07-25T19:20:46","modified_gmt":"2006-07-26T00:20:46","slug":"the-emphatic-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/granades.com\/?p=382","title":{"rendered":"The Emphatic No"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>These days Eli is all about saying, &#8220;No!&#8221; I got ready to go to work this morning and, as usual, told Eli, &#8220;I&#8217;m off to work! Come give me a hug and a kiss!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No!&#8221; he shouted, and ran off laughing.<\/p>\n<p>I know, I know. This is normal; he&#8217;s being independent; this is a phase that will pass. But I am still seized with unreasoning anger. Why must he assert his independence by saying &#8220;no&#8221; all the time? Have we not done as parenting books and the Internet demand and given him choices? Sometimes even <i>meaningful<\/i> choices? &#8220;Do you want to stay with mom or go to the store with dad?&#8221; &#8220;Would you like to read a book or play with your cars?&#8221; &#8220;Paper or plastic?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter. These coping strategies are as snowflakes on the hot stove eye of his burgeoning independence. No, he doesn&#8217;t want to eat dinner. No, he doesn&#8217;t want to stop hitting the wall with that wooden spoon. Even when it&#8217;s something he has previously asked to do, like watching Sesame Street, sometimes he still says no.<\/p>\n<p>I have a new coping strategy. Every time he says no, I now stick my fingers in my ears and shout &#8220;LA LA LA I CAN&#8217;T HEAR YOU.&#8221; I&#8217;ll let you know how well this works.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>These days Eli is all about saying, &#8220;No!&#8221; I got ready to go to work this morning and, as usual, told Eli, &#8220;I&#8217;m off to work! Come give me a hug and a kiss!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;No!&#8221; he shouted, and ran off laughing.<\/p>\n<p>I know, I know. This is normal; he&#8217;s being independent; this is a phase that will pass. But I am still seized with unreasoning anger&#8230;.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-382","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/382","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=382"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/382\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=382"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=382"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/granades.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=382"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}