Comments on: Dream http://granades.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fgranades.com%2F2006%2F01%2F11%2Fdream%2F%23comment-&seed_title=Dream Like a blog, but explodier Mon, 13 Oct 2008 23:00:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: anonymous http://granades.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fgranades.com%2F2006%2F01%2F11%2Fdream%2F%23comment-847&seed_title=Dream#comment-847 anonymous Thu, 12 Jan 2006 21:32:51 +0000 http://granades.com/2006/01/11/dream/#comment-847 Try not to worry about it too much. You and Misty have been great parents and I know that you will continue along that path. I know that you will find your way and everything will work out just fine. Of course, this is easy for me to say, being childless and all. Just remember that positive enforcement will go a long way. And if you find you just can't take it anymore, it's Nanny to the rescue! A little time away might just be what you need. Good luck. -Nanny Try not to worry about it too much. You and Misty have been great parents and I know that you will continue along that path. I know that you will find your way and everything will work out just fine. Of course, this is easy for me to say, being childless and all. Just remember that positive enforcement will go a long way. And if you find you just can’t take it anymore, it’s Nanny to the rescue! A little time away might just be what you need.

Good luck.

-Nanny

]]> By: paulobrian http://granades.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fgranades.com%2F2006%2F01%2F11%2Fdream%2F%23comment-846&seed_title=Dream#comment-846 paulobrian Wed, 11 Jan 2006 16:20:30 +0000 http://granades.com/2006/01/11/dream/#comment-846 I don't know how helpful I can be, given that Dante is a year and a half behind Eli. However: One of the parenting mantras that has really helped me is: It's Not Personal. Ignoring/testing is a dynamic that happens between every parent and child. It's just part of the system, part of the deal. I find it easy to fall into the trap of feeling personally affronted by my kid's behavior -- I don't have any other relationships where the other person is so irrational or has such poor communication skills, and I try to avoid such relationships. So nobody else in my life gets to treat me the way that Dante does, and sometimes it's hard to remember that I'm supposed to be his mentor rather than just his friend. However, his behavior (or misbehavior, in Eli's case) isn't about me. It's about him learning the boundaries of his world, and I'm there to show him what they are. Without anger, ideally. (An ideal I do fall short of sometimes.) I don’t know how helpful I can be, given that Dante is a year and a half behind Eli. However:

One of the parenting mantras that has really helped me is: It’s Not Personal. Ignoring/testing is a dynamic that happens between every parent and child. It’s just part of the system, part of the deal. I find it easy to fall into the trap of feeling personally affronted by my kid’s behavior — I don’t have any other relationships where the other person is so irrational or has such poor communication skills, and I try to avoid such relationships. So nobody else in my life gets to treat me the way that Dante does, and sometimes it’s hard to remember that I’m supposed to be his mentor rather than just his friend. However, his behavior (or misbehavior, in Eli’s case) isn’t about me. It’s about him learning the boundaries of his world, and I’m there to show him what they are. Without anger, ideally. (An ideal I do fall short of sometimes.)

]]> By: anonymous http://granades.com/feeder/?FeederAction=clicked&feed=Comments+on+Articles+%28RSS2%29&seed=http%3A%2F%2Fgranades.com%2F2006%2F01%2F11%2Fdream%2F%23comment-845&seed_title=Dream#comment-845 anonymous Wed, 11 Jan 2006 13:49:04 +0000 http://granades.com/2006/01/11/dream/#comment-845 Pick your battles. Not all misbehavior merits the same degree of discipline. He is easily led and basically wants to obey. He just needs to be shown how. You are looking at yourself at this age. We did fine and you will too. Mom/Eli's May Pick your battles. Not all misbehavior merits the same degree of discipline. He is easily led and basically wants to obey. He just needs to be shown how. You are looking at yourself at this age. We did fine and you will too.
Mom/Eli’s May

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